I recently finished the book “So Long Insecurity” by Beth Moore, which to me is a book that I would recommend any woman of any age add to their list of “must reads in my lifetime.” It’s one of those books where, within the first few pages of the very first chapter I find myself asking the questions “Does this author know me? How did she know what I was going through? Did she write this whole book about me?” I don’t normally do that with books, but this one hit so close to home it was scary.
Let me fill you in on a little secret: I struggle, sometimes daily, with insecurity. There it is. It’s out on the table: I’m insecure. Thing is, I bet if you were totally honest with yourself, you struggle with insecurity too (women and men alike). Maybe you’re insecure about your marriage, or your friendships, or your looks, or your parenting abilities, or… well, you get the picture. We all have something that makes us doubt ourselves (although I probably have more than most!). It’s why I loved this book by Beth Moore; she talks about how normal insecurity is, how so many people struggle with it, even though it’s our human nature to avoid the topic altogether.
Throughout the book, Beth uses the verse from Proverbs 31 sort of as a slogan that we as women should adopt: “She is clothed with strength and dignity.” It’s almost ironic that I read this book when I did, because just a few short months prior I had created a print for my etsy shop centered around the very same verse. At the time I created it, I had no idea what storms I would face, what insecurities would come creeping up, and just how much I could really use that scripture.
God wants his daughters to be enveloped in strength and dignity. I love how Beth describes what dignity is in the book:
“To possess dignity is to be worthy of respect. Worthy of high esteem. Absorb this: you are worth of respect. So am I. No matter how foolish insecurity has tried to make us feel, we have the right to dignity because God Himself gave it to us. If we really believed this truth, we wouldn’t have to mask our insecurity with pride. If we knew who we were and what God has conferred upon us, what everybody else thought of us would grow less and less significant.”
This book has really challenged me to lay down my pride and admit something I really hate to admit: I struggle with insecurity. I don’t want to hide it like some dirty little secret anymore. I refuse to. Yes, I have wounds from others that have caused many of my insecurities. Yes, I have my own self-inflicted scars where I’ve foolishly hurt myself. But I’m on a healing path. I might never be completely void of insecurity, it might sneak back now and then, but I can be “clothed with strength and dignity” the way God originally intended for me (and you!) to be.
Instead of seeing myself through the eyes of the world, or through my own critical eyes, I can see myself through the eyes of my Creator.
Instead of comparing myself to other women, other wives, other moms, I need to be focused on who Christ designed me to be: A woman drenched in the security that comes from the Father. I absolutely believe it’s an obtainable goal.
After finishing the book, I was inspired to revise my original print, and I’m in love with the final outcome. I’m planning on printing it and framing it up in my bedroom, so that when I wake up, I’ll see this scripture and be reminded of who I am to be; who God wants me to be.
If you don’t have the money to spend, or maybe you don’t even like the style of the print (that’s okay!), then at least write this scripture down on a sticky note, and stick it somewhere you’ll see it everyday. Remind yourself that this is what God intends for his children; not a life of living in constant insecurity. We as women have too many negative messages thrown at us daily, and sometimes we just need a reminder of our true value.
And most of all, please go read Beth Moore’s book. It’s so incredibly eye opening, and has helped me tremendously through some really tough battles (sometimes battles with myself). It’s just ten bucks for the kindle version, and you won’t regret spending the money. Or, shoot, find a local library that carries it. Just read it. Seriously. It might bring some healing to your life that you’ve desperately needed, like it did with me.